we’ve all been there at least once and if you have any kind of talent, drive or intelligence, you’ve been there multiple times. i’m talking about facing rejection. no one goes through life without being rejected. it hurts and it sucks, but it’s not the end of the world.
sometimes, rejection is the best thing that can ever happen to you. how many times have you written a paper in a rush and turned it in only to have it come back marked up in red? okay, that’s mostly for my fellow writers. but it applies to others as well. the red ink was proof that you didn’t submit your best. and let’s be honest, we should never be allowed to succeed without submitting our best. that means rejection is inevitable because we’re not always on our a game. life happens and priorities shift and time is spent elsewhere. no big deal.
the time rejection hurts the most though is when you poured your heart and soul into something or someone and it didn’t work out at all. now that’s pain. that’s the sucky part of rejection that makes you want to crawl into a dark hole with a bottle of red wine and drink until you pass out. no? just me? oh well. for the record i never drink until i pass out but the thought has certainly crossed my mind!
the awesome thing about rejection is it can truly make us better. we can accept it, learn from it and get back out there. some rejection is not a reflection of us or our talent. sometimes it’s someone else’s short-sidedness, lack of creativity, inability to think big or insecurities. in other words, it’s not always about you! being able to distinguish the difference can save you some major self-loathing and pity party sessions. look at me, say no to the pity party. nothing good can come of it!
if you’re currently dealing with rejection, let me just say you are in good company. check out this list of rejections from some pretty successful people!
Walt Disney – Fired from the Kansas City Star in 1919 because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.”
JK Rowling – Rejected by dozens, including HarperCollins, when a small publisher in London took a chance on Harry Potter.
Oprah Winfey – Fired as an evening news reporter of Baltimore’s WJZ-TV because she couldn’t separate her emotions from her stories.
George Orwell – A publisher turned down his legendary novel, Animal Farm, with the words “It is impossible to sell animal stories in the USA”.
Jerry Seinfeld – Didn’t find out he was cut from a minor role on a sitcom until he read the script and discovered his part missing.
Elvis Presley – After a performance in Nashville early in his career, he was told by a manager that he was better off driving trucks in Memphis (his previous job).
Steve Jobs – Fired from the company he started, Apple, but was desperately brought back in 1997 to save it. Apple is now the most valuable company in the world.
Stephen King – His first book, Carrie, was rejected thirty times. He nearly threw the book out when his wife saved it from the trash and encouraged him to keep trying.
Marilyn Monroe – At the start of her storied modeling and acting career, she was told she should consider becoming a secretary.
Abraham Lincoln – Demoted from Captain to Private during war, failed as a businessman, and lost several times as a political candidate before becoming President.
so, how does rejection feel now? share your rejection story and how you overcame it in the comments below!