i can’t keep calm because there is too much to do
i don’t think anyone would identify me as a calm person. it’s not because i’m always amped up and agitated. it’s more because i don’t like to sit still. i know how to be still. i just don’t like doing it. i was blessed with a natural abundance of energy and even in my thirties …
Revisiting the worst day of my life a year later
my sister’s smile and laugh were so contagious that if she started it, everyone joined in. her laugh is the thing i hear most in my head on the days i can’t help but miss her. she left this world a year ago today and things aren’t any easier. my friend jj told me it …
black girls run and dance and lift and sweat
it is amazing to me that we even have to make such statements. yes black girls are fit. no all of us aren’t overweight. why do people think that? because non black people seem to think madea is the only kind of black woman there is. never you mind the many black women casted in …
i’ve got the answers to the secrets of life
got a secret can you keep it? swear this one you’ll save better lock it, in your pocket taking this one to the grave if i show you then i know you won’t tell what i said cause two can keep a secret if one of them is dead… ~ pretty little liars theme song …
i don’t make new year’s resolutions
aw, the dawn of a new year. think of all the new possibilities and new opportunities that await. it is the promise of newness that drives people to make new year’s resolutions. i don’t make new year’s resolutions anymore. gave it up a long time ago since i typically gave up on those resolutions shortly …
when blackness and feminism converge on the same world stage
the world is still buzzing from two things that happened last week. we lost a world icon in the homegoing of nelson mandela and rising world icon beyonce dropped a surprise album without so much as a peep. two very different events, both generating endless buzz. i have much respect and admiration for nelson mandela. …
let’s get tipsy and artsy all at the same time
what happens when you combine your best girlfriends, paint and wine? a party! i hardly ever get to hang out with my friends when i go home for the holidays. it’s usually all about the family. but this time i wanted to make sure i saw my peeps. we scheduled a paint and sip party …
ice skating is for lovers … and nieces and nephews
the first time i went ice skating i had an absolute blast. so much fun, in fact, i decided to take my nieces and nephew so they could love it too. my nephew has only gone a few times but he was so small he didn’t remember. this past thanksgiving i thought it would be …
that time when family made it all better
during the holidays, people tend to take a few minutes to reflect on life. most times we talk about how we’re thankful for family and friends and love. those are all great things to be thankful for. i’m no different. i’m extremely thankful for my family and every bit of time i have with them. …